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Conscientiousness
How we think and speak with others in mind
[Originally posted on Substack — sign up here]
Conscientiousness is the awareness of how your actions and behaviors are perceived by others.
Everything you do or say in a social context is going to be mediated through the senses of another person — and what is clearly and readily expressed by you may not be clearly and readily understood by them.
Conscientious people are aware of the delta between expression and perception.
To be conscientious of your own behavior and speech is to be mindful of how your actions and words will be received, processed, and internalized.
Unfortunately, we don’t live in the Avatar world where people can hook up their ponytails and experience the consciousness of another being. Until brain-to-brain interfaces become mainstream, we’re stuck with communication, which relies on a ton of intermediary steps on the route from my head to yours.
When communicating, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of believing that you’re expressing yourself perfectly clearly, when in fact you’re failing to get your point across at all.
That indicates a lack of conscientiousness.
